Soulmate Relationships
Soulmates are people who have the relationship most of us dreamt of when we were young and innocent: loving and erotic, inspiring and safe and – best of all – lasting. However, soulmates are not a gift from heaven which some of us had the luck to receive while the majority has been left starving. Everybody who seriously wants to live in such a relationship can learn how to do that. There are four basic dynamics which are essential to create this wonderful relationship that most people dream of.
Commitment to love and to grow in love
Many people wrongly assume that their love would always flow beautifully if they would only meet the right person and that their more negative and selfish sides will only surface if their partner suddenly becomes difficult or boring. The truth is that our love will only be as strong as our commitment to always regard the needs of our partner as important as our own. Not more important and not less – just as important.
The law of an even deal
Unfortunately, a commitment to love alone – beautiful as it is – is not enough. There are a huge number of people who are very devoted to their partners and still their relationships are very unhappy because their love and dedication is not reciprocated. The law of an even deal says that all giving and taking in a relationship must roughly amount to an even deal if both partners are to feel satisfied. This really is common sense but many women still get the rough end when it comes to distributing the chores and family duties. Unconsciously they have allowed the law of an even deal to become uneven by being too submissive or too forgiving.
Many people do not like the thought of an even deal in a romantic relationship because it feels too calculating. However, after many years of working as a psychotherapist with people who have relationship problems I have to say: If we want a great relationship we can’t afford the law of an even deal to go out of balance from the very first moment when we meet a potential partner. This is particularly important for women who have a tendency to disregard the law of an even deal to their own disadvantage.
Harmonious and erotic patterns between female and male energies
Now we have love and equality but what about romance? Romance and erotic energy work best if a woman enjoys her femininity and a man enjoys his masculinity. Then both partners can start the romantic and erotic dance that is possible only if two people are delightfully different. The archetypal romantic gesture is when the male gives to the female and if the female receives gracefully. This is not an attack on the victories of feminism but simply appreciates what most people find romantically and erotically fulfilling.
The unavoidable merging-process between two people in a sexual relationship
Many people do not realise just how much two partners can hold each other back in their overall happiness. Being in a sexual relationship is like sitting in one emotional boat where you can only float or sink together. Unfortunately, it is the partner who is more unloving who will determine the overall atmosphere of a couple. This is due to the fact that negative emotions are more dominant than positive ones.
Soulmates have agreed to follow the advice of the happier and wiser partner (who is in this role may often change) so that the couple as a whole can develop in amazing leaps and starts and bring wonderful things to the world.
In my work as a counselor I have found that every problem in a relationship can be traced back to violating one of these four basic dynamics. On the other hand, if these areas of a relationship are positively in place both people will be very happy. For more information please have a look at my book Soulmate Relationships.
Tara Springett holds an M.A. in Education and is a fully qualified psychotherapist. She has post-graduate qualifications in gestalt therapy, body awareness therapy and transpersonal therapy. She has worked as a drugs counselor, counselor for adolescents and general psychotherapist since 1988.
Tara has been a dedicated Buddhist practitioner since 1986. In 1997 she received encouragement from her Buddhist teacher to teach others. Tara has since taught on-going meditation groups and combines Buddhist wisdom and her experience in counseling when assisting her clients with their personal growth, self development & improvement.
For more advice about soulmate relationships go to www.taraspringett.com
Hey Lada =) I have a scorpio ascendant, but Pisces is in my fourth house.
How would this affect the meaning of Pisces people in my life?
I think she’s speaking abt which house is triggered on the native’s chart
if Scorpio or Pisces is rising. That changes the order of the signs on the
indivual houses. Pisces Asc would (assuming that the Whole Sign methodology
is used to create the chart) would have Scorpio on the 9th, so the Pisces
Asc person’s 9th house would be triggered by a Scorpionic person.
He’s a Scorpio ascendant. I’m Pisces sun (western,) and Pisces moon
(Vedic). I love him so much. He makes me the best me, and even though he
has a difficult time saying so, I know I do the same for him. 3
Thank you Lada
Scorpio sun, scorpio ascendant; married to a pisces sun, virgo ascendant.
Scorpio sun with sagitarious ascendant younger son. And pisces sun with
capricornio ascendant oldest son. Haha
Pisces its Original House is the 12th house i guess .. not 9th..
whoa that was deep.. new to dating scorpio men but have a female bestfriend
that is a scorpio and she was very encouraging i love her deeply.. just
start conversing with a scorpio male and things are going well
My scorpio man helped me get saved ! 🙂
it can be heaven and hell
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Lada can I compare my decendant also, I read somewhere I can also compare
the decendant sign..just wondering 🙂
Ｉｆ Ｉ ｍａｙ ａｓｋ，Ｉ ｒｅａｄ ｏｎ ｓｏｍｅ ｓｉｔｅｓ ａｂｏｕｔ Ｐｉｓｃｅｓ ｗｉｌｌ ｂｅ ｔｈｅ ’ｓｔａｒ’ ｔｈａｔ ｗｉｌｌ
ｐｒｏｔｅｃｔ Ｓｃｏｒｐｉｏ ｆｒｏｍ ｏｔｈｅｒ ’ｓｔａｒｓ’．Ｉ ａｍ ｒｅａｌｌｙ ｃｕｒｉｏｕｓ ａｎｄ Ｉ ｗｏｕｌｄ ｂｅ ｖｅｒｙ
ｈａｐｐｙ ｉｆ ｓｏｍｅｏｎｅ ｃｏｕｌｄ ｅｘｐｌａｉｎ ｉｔ ｔｏ ｍｅ．＝）
I’m a scorpio rising but i have Aries in the 5 t
Love making with a pisces and scorpio is an out of body experience 🙂